"Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?"
Many women the world over have either memorized or tried to live like the Proverbs 31 woman, the one that is described vividly in the book of Proverbs in the Bible.
On a lager scale ministries have been etched with the thought of such a woman of virtue, but is it practical to even try to live up to such expectations especially when you know that life and ones environment may not offer such an opportunity?
Truthfully, being a wife or woman of noble character in today’s world comes with great sacrifice, and an ideal amount of spiritual growth.
The first line of Proverbs 30:1 begins with, “who can find a virtuous and capable wife?” If asking someone in today’s world, what a “virtuous woman is,” they may say, well she may not exist, or she is very hard to come by. The point of this message is that this kind of person is rare, but also more precious than rubies (v. 1b).
However, ironically a virtuous woman may be amongst us but sadly, she will be passed over or even be someone who society ostracizes because she may not possess visible or tangible attributes one might think is needed for such a position of high esteem.
The truth is, many women will never know if they are this kind of woman and worse, no one will ever tell them. Why? Because the view of this kind of woman is farfetched due to societal standards and expectations. Let’s see.
The average woman or women living in extreme poverty, usually in minority groups are seldom praised for their work raising children alone, perform immensely well on a small income with or without a job, and perhaps not in the best of health mentally and physically.
So, without further elaborative prose, here’s how to define success in motherhood and in any area of life; and let’s explore a success story no one talks about truthfully.
Recently, at the 2022 commencement ceremony at Liberty University, John Maxwell, “the world’s foremost authority on business and leadership training and has advised Fortune 500 CEOs, the presidents of nations, and entrepreneurs worldwide, multiple #1 New York Times bestselling author, speaker, coach, and leader has sold more than 34 million books in 50 languages, and founder of Maxwell Leadership — a leadership development organization that has trained tens of millions of leaders in every nation,” stated the following:
All your life, in our culture, you’ve been taught to separate success and failure,” Maxwell said. “I’m here to tell you today … I want you to keep success and failure side by side. They belong together, they do not belong separated. … They not only belong together, they need each other. You separate them and you get arrogance in success and defeat in failure.” I want to congratulate you for this day,” Maxwell began. “There is a tendency to think that this is a weekend when you became successful, but this is (instead) a weekend during which your success is recognized. You were successful when you decided to go to Liberty University, you were successful when you went to class, you were successful when you studied. So many times people confuse what success is with recognition of success.” He explained that “success starts by focusing on the talents given by God, then taking the time to grow in those skills.” “Find your strengths, the three or four things you do very well, and then be very committed to consistently growing yourself. It’s a continual growth process in your life.” In his time as a pastor, Maxwell said he found that success, by the world’s definition, was not fulfilling. I decided that I needed to develop a personal definition of success for me; I couldn’t let the world give me their definition of success,” he said. “I had to figure out on my own (what success is). I only give it to you because the inside (of yourself) has to be strong, and if the inside is strong, it can handle what’s on the outside.” Achieving anything worthwhile requires an uphill journey, Maxwell explained, and the barrier to that journey is “downhill habits.” “Everything in your life, everything in my life, every dream you have … it’s all uphill,” he said. “Here is the problem: we have uphill hopes, but we have downhill habits, and one of the downhill habits that we have to understand at this age is the want for immediate gratification. Everything worthwhile takes time, but if you stick with it, consistency compounds.” “What we are enjoying today at Liberty University… it didn’t happen in the first year, it didn’t happen in the first decade, this is 50 years of consistency in message and focus and effort,” he added. 
Overall, Failure and Success Go Together So Stop Worrying, It’s inevitable!
Personally speaking as a mother, I have experienced many failures, but also ample amounts of success, simply because I made decisions in the face of fear. I had to tap into that “fierce love,” that grounded as a young girl, and helped me to become an overcomer as a divorced woman and single mother of four.
Sometimes you just have to go, just get up and do something worth doing and trust that all will be well.
Never have regrets.
Allow yourself the space to receive God’s grace to carry you through the rough patches in life.
You are never truly alone. Even though you may feel like give up and you are alone, that feeling is to be relinquished with faith and hope so that you can experience the rewards for your success in due season.
So, if you are a woman, wife, mother, grandmother, sister, friend, and feel like you are not appreciated, or celebrated whether on Mother’s Day, or on any other day, know that God celebrates you, as His word states in Proverbs 31. God had this special note written just for you. Every prayer, tear, unsure step, idea, energy spent, and word spoken, God has seen and heard it all.
Believe that in due season you will see the rewards for your successes along the way. As Pastor Maxwell stated above, every time you decided on anything you were successful. Every time you took action, put in effort, and even though you have not finished your work yet, you are still successful.
So, stay the course, continue being diligent, faithful, prayerful, and hopeful, allowing God’s grace to cover you, work in you and through you, so that you will come out on top, and have the abundant life you are meant to have (John 10:10).
Please enjoy the day. For this is the day that the Lord God made. Rejoice and be exceedingly glad. Give thanks always. Stay humble, calm, and pray for wisdom as is the woman, wife and vessel of noble character (Proverbs 31).